New to masturbation

Myque asks:

Hi Amy. My friend is new to masturbating. She is very nervous about penetration, so she is mostly looking for things that stay outside of her body. She has a husband, but neither of them really have a lot of experience outside of standard sex. What would suggest for her?

Dear Myque:

Many women who are new to masturbating may want to take the time to get to know their bodies on a more personal level. The first thing I suggest is for your friend to use a hand mirror while squatting or sitting down in a comfortable position to get a better look at her genitalia. When she feels comfortable enough to proceed, she may want to explore this area with her fingers to see what feels good to her. Many women love clitoral stimulation during masturbation. However, many women also like the sensation of being touched all around the vulva. Keep in mind that all women respond differently to various forms of sexual stimulation.

After your friend feels comfortable touching her body, she may want to experiment with sex toys. Because she is new to masturbation and hesitant about penetration, I would suggest starting with a friendly bullet vibe clitoral vibrator, such as the Ultra Bullet, which is one of our customer favorites. Another option to consider is a vibrator that is shaped to contour the body, like Pom by Dame. The Pom can be used in many positions, including with a partner. This may also be a nice toy to include during lovemaking with her husband.  

For further information, your friend may want to check out Sheri Winston's book, Women's Anatomy of Arousal.  Sheri Winston integrates her knowledge and modern sexuality information in a sexy, fun, empowering guidebook that illuminates every woman's secret paths to fabulous, orgasmically abundant sex...a great guide for all woman and the people who love them!