Strap-on play is such a yummy way to add variety to your sex life, and honestly, it’s for everyone. Whether you're a pussy owner or a cock owner, or exploring your gender identity with who you’re into - your sexual preferences don’t matter here—all bodies are welcome in this shameless playground. It’s about finding new ways to give and receive pleasure, honoring your truth, and maybe even exploring a little power exchange or dominant/submissive vibe if that’s your jam.

Busting the Myths (Because We're All About That)

Before we get to the nitty-gritty, can we talk about the myths for a second? There’s this old-school, shaming idea that only lesbians use strap-ons, or that a straight guy enjoying some delicious butt stuff means something specific about his orientation. Newsflash, y'all: All consensual sex is good sex, full stop.

People of all identities enjoy strap-on play, and the possibilities are endless. Check out these ways to use the tools in your tool belt:

• Pegging: Absolutely legendary for prostate stimulation and pleasureing that universal orifice.
• Vaginal Penetration: Classic, reliable, and five million times better with the right toy.
• Power Exchange: Dive into those dominance and submission dynamics and let your fire burn.
• Hollow Dildos: A total game-changer for folks dealing with erectile dysfunction.
• Double Penetration: Why choose? Go for anal and vaginal simultaneously.

1. Building Your Pleasure Tool Kit

Choosing Your Harness: You’ve got options, babe! From jockstraps that offer a little lift to minimalist thongs or super comfy boxer-styles for all-day wear.

PPS Recommendations: Check out the SpareParts Joque Cover Underwear Harness or the Sportsheets Lush Adjustable Harness.

Picking the Perfect Dildo: Make sure it has a flared base. That base is what slides through the harness O-ring to keep everything secure against your pelvis while you’re doing your thing.

PPS Recommendations: We love the Avant D2 Purple Rain or the Tantus Leisure Vibrating Dildo for some extra buzz.

Lube, Lube, and More Lube: Don’t be shy with it! Use a shit ton of water-based or silicone-based lube to keep things sliding smoothly.

PPS Recommendations: Uberlube or Sliquid Sassy Booty Formula are total staples.

2. Getting the Fit Just Right

Snug as a Bug: Your harness should be snug but not so tight it cuts off your circulation—we want pleasure, not pain, unless that's your specific kink!

The Step-In: Loosen all the straps first, step in, and pull it up like your favorite pair of pants.

Lock and Load: Insert the dildo through the O-ring so the flared base sits flat against the harness.

Solo Rehearsal: Try wearing it around the house first! Adjust the straps, do a little dance, and get used to how it feels before the main event.

3. Pro-Tips for Play

Start Slow: If you're new, have the wearer lie on their back while the partner straddles them. It makes maneuvering so much easier and keeps the connection super intimate.

Check-In Often: Communication is sexy! Talk about speed, depth, and how everything feels. Remember, you can change your minds at any time.

Add Some Sparkle: Why not use a bullet vibe against the clitoris or the base of the harness for that cherry on top?

PPS Recommendations: The VeDO Bam Mini Bullet or We-Vibe Tango X are perfect additions.

Switch It Up: Experiment with angles—doggy style or using the edge of the bed can totally change the sensation and make it mindblowing.

4. Clean Up & Care

Don't Wait: Clean your toys and harness right after the fun is done.

Check the Label: Many fabric harnesses can go right in the wash, but treat your leather gear with a little more hand-washing love.

Remember, your pleasure, your rules. Strap-on play should always be about enthusiastic consent and having an absolute blast with your partner.