Three’s Company: The How, What, and Why of Threesomes

Let’s Talk Threesomes

Let’s talk about one of the most common fantasies in the book: the threesome. Whether you’re a couple looking to invite a guest star into your bedroom or three single folks ready to mix it up, a ménage à trois can be an absolute blast. But before you dive into the deep end, remember: at Pure Pleasure, we believe all consensual sex is good sex. To keep it that way, you’re going to need a solid toolkit of communication, emotional maturity, and mutual consent.

All right, so let's break it down!

What Exactly is a Threesome?

Simply put, it’s a consensual sexual encounter between three people at the same time. It’s that sweet spot between a duo and a full-blown group sex party. The best part? You get to make your own rules. It can be a spontaneous night with friends or a carefully planned adventure for an established couple.

Why the Triple Threat?

Why do people do it? For starters, it’s novelty that’s about five million times more intense than your usual routine! Common reasons include:

• Exploring your sexuality: Learn more about your identity in a safe, shame-free environment.
• Fulfilling fantasies: Finally acting out that "what if" scenario you've been dreaming about.
• Building intimacy: For some couples, navigating this together can build a level of trust that feels like winning the fucking Olympics.
• Validation: Because let’s be real—feeling desired by two people at once is a major ego boost.

How to Do It Right (Without the Drama)

A threesome is the cherry on top of a healthy sex life, not a band-aid for a broken relationship. Here is how to ensure everyone leaves with a smile.

1. Before You Jump In

Clarify Intentions: Be honest about what you want. Are you looking for a one-night stand or a recurring guest?

Set the Rules: Discuss your "hard limits" and fears. What’s off-limits? What’s a "hell yes"?

Find Partners Ethically: If you’re a couple, don’t treat your third like a prop. Use apps like Feeld or OkCupid to find folks who are actually looking for this dynamic.

2. During the Magic

Ongoing Check-ins: Keep the communication flowing. A simple "Are you still loving this?" goes a long way.

The Veto Rule: Agree that anyone can hit the "stop" button at any time, for any reason, with no judgment, just love.

Inclusivity is Key: Make sure no one feels like a spectator. It’s a trio, not a duo-plus-one!

3. The Afterglow

The De-brief: Talk about what worked and what didn't.

Handle the "Feels": Jealousy or insecurity might pop up—that’s okay! Normalize those diverse emotions and work through them together.

Download Checklist

Ready for more? Grab your free threesome checklist and start planning.

Prefer to listen to it out?, check out Shameless Sex Podcast Episode #211

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