Bend-Over Boyfriend Beginner

Margaret asks:

My boyfriend and I are starting to explore strap-on sex. We have the harness but not the dildo. What dildo would be best for us to use?

Dear Margaret,

Considering that you two are beginners, I would suggest a small to medium-sized dildo that is simple and harness-compatible, such as the Silk from Tantus. Make sure that whatever toy you use has a base. Not only does this make it harness compatible, but it also ensures a safe experience.

We also have sets, with a harness and dildo, that are great for beginners. Check out the Tantus Bend Over Beginner Strap-On Harness Kit. 

Also, lube is a must when it comes to anal sex. I recommend Pjur Analyse me!, a silicone-based anal glide that creates a relaxing sensation without the numbing effect. With the right dildo, lube, and most importantly, communication, you two should be ready to go in no time!