Choosing the Perfect Dildo: A Complete Guide to Materials, Types & Uses

Welcome to our comprehensive guide to the wonderful world of dildos! Whether you're new to pleasure products or looking to explore something different, this guide is designed to help you feel confident and informed as you explore the vast array of dildos available and find the right choic(es) for your unique desires.

Exploring dildos is a valid and empowering form of self-care and sexual expression. These versatile tools can enhance pleasure, facilitate self-discovery, and enrich partnered intimacy. Using a dildo is a beautiful way to explore your body and what feels good to you, whether it's your first time or you're adding to a collection you've built over time.

Let's embark on this journey together, breaking down the options and helping you make informed choices for safe and satisfying pleasure.

Types of Dildos

The world of dildos is wonderfully diverse! To help you find your way, we'll focus on the specific categories we offer in our selection. Each type offers a different design and experience, catering to various preferences and uses.

Realistic Dildos

Description: These dildos are designed to mimic the look and feel of a penis. They often feature details like veins, a glans (head), and sometimes even a realistic texture. They typically come in various skin tones and sizes to reflect natural diversity.

Best Uses: Often used for vaginal or anal penetration, providing a familiar shape and feel. Can also be used for external stimulation or grinding.

Ideal For: Individuals or couples who enjoy the aesthetic and feel of a realistic penis. Those looking for a familiar form factor for penetration.

Pros: Offers a realistic look and feel. Familiar shape for many users. Available in a wide range of sizes and firmness levels.

Cons: The realistic appearance might not appeal to everyone. Textures can vary widely in feel.

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Non-phallic Dildos

Description: This broad category includes dildos that don't resemble a penis. They come in countless abstract, artistic, or ergonomic shapes. Think curves, waves, ridges, and unique contours designed for specific sensations or ease of use.

Best Uses: Exploring different internal and external sensations that aren't limited by a phallic form. Can target specific internal points or provide unique textures and pressures.

Ideal For: Adventurous users who want to explore sensations beyond the traditional phallic shape. Those seeking aesthetic pleasure from their toys. Individuals looking for toys specifically designed for targeting areas like the G-spot or prostate without a realistic appearance.

Pros: Offers unique sensations and visual appeal. Allows for creative exploration of pleasure points. Wide variety of shapes and sizes available.

Cons: Can be more challenging to know what to expect from the shape alone. Might require more experimentation to find the "sweet spot."

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Glass & Metal Dildos

Description: These dildos are made entirely or primarily from glass or metal (such as stainless steel). They typically have a smooth, non-porous surface and a solid, weighty feel. Their shape can range from simple cylinders to more intricate forms.

Best Uses: Excellent for temperature play – they can be warmed in warm water for a soothing sensation or chilled in the freezer (in a bag) for an exhilarating cool feeling. The non-porous surface makes them very hygienic and easy to clean. Can offer intense pressure due to their weight.

Ideal For: Users interested in incorporating temperature play into their experiences. Those who prioritize hygiene and easy cleaning. Individuals who enjoy the solid feel and weight of a non-porous material.

Pros: Very body-safe and non-porous. Easy to clean. Excellent for temperature play. Durable and long-lasting.

Cons: Can be more fragile (glass) or heavy (metal). Require careful temperature moderation to avoid burns or injury.

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Strap-ons

Description: A strap-on dildo is designed to be worn externally, typically attached to the body using a harness, to be used for partnered penetration. The dildos themselves come in various shapes, sizes, and materials, often featuring a base designed to fit securely into a harness.

Best Uses: Facilitating partnered sex, allowing one partner to penetrate the other. Can be used for vaginal, anal, or oral sex with a partner.

Ideal For: Couples exploring different roles and types of penetration. Individuals who enjoy giving or receiving penetration using a dildo. Those interested in power dynamics.

Pros: Enables versatile partnered play. Can be worn by people of any gender or anatomy. Offers hands-free penetration.

Cons: Requires a separate harness (unless included) and understanding harness fit and O-ring compatibility. Can require practice to get comfortable with positioning and movement.

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O-Rings & Accessories

Description: O-rings are typically silicone or rubber rings used with strap-on harnesses. They fit around the base of a harness-compatible dildo to secure it to the harness. Accessories can include things like different harness types, cleaning supplies, storage solutions, or attachments.

Best Uses: Customizing and enhancing the strap-on experience by ensuring a secure fit between the dildo and harness. Protecting and maintaining your toys (cleaning/storage).

Ideal For: Users of strap-on dildos to ensure proper fit and function. Anyone looking to properly care for their toys or add complementary products.

Pros: Essential for proper strap-on use. Accessories help maintain toy hygiene and lifespan. Allows for customization.

Cons: Requires understanding sizing and compatibility.

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Materials & Safety

The materials your dildo is made from are incredibly important for your health, safety, and the lifespan of the toy. Investing in a safe sex toy isn't a luxury; it's an investment in your body, your intimacy, and your pleasure. The sex toy industry is largely unregulated, so doing your own research is crucial.

Body-Safe Materials

Look for toys made from non-porous, body-safe materials. Non-porous materials have a smooth, sealed surface that doesn't have tiny holes or spaces where bacteria, dirt, or chemicals can easily get trapped. This makes them much more hygienic, especially for internal use.

Highly recommended body-safe materials include:

• Medical-grade Silicone: This is a top choice for sex toys. It's non-porous, durable, easy to clean, and body-safe. Important note: Silicone toys are generally only compatible with water-based lubricants. Silicone-based lubricants can degrade silicone toys.
• Glass: As mentioned, glass is non-porous and very easy to clean. It's excellent for temperature play and is generally considered body-safe.
• Metal: Materials like stainless steel are also non-porous and safe. They are durable, easy to clean, and good for temperature play.
• ABS Plastic: This is another non-porous plastic that is often used for sex toys and is considered body-safe.

Materials to Avoid and Why

Some materials are porous and/or may contain harmful chemicals, making them less ideal or even unsafe, especially for internal use.

• Porous Materials (like TPE/TPR/Jelly): These thermo-plastic elastomers (TPE) or rubbers (TPR), often referred to as "jelly" toys, are porous. This means they can trap bacteria, dirt, and lubricants within the material, making them difficult to clean effectively and potentially unhygienic over time.
• Phthalates: Many cheap plastics, particularly porous ones like TPE/TPR, may contain phthalates. These are chemicals that have been linked to negative health effects, including adversely affecting reproductive health. Always look for products specifically labeled "phthalate-free".
• Unspecified Materials / "Silicone Blends": Be wary of toys with vague material descriptions or those claiming to be "silicone blends" without specifying what they are blended with. Unless the manufacturer clearly states the composition and guarantees safety, it's better to stick to known body-safe materials.

How to Clean and Store Properly

Proper care is essential for hygiene and extending the life of your dildo.

Cleaning

Always clean your dildo before and after each use. Use a mild, unscented soap and warm water. You can also use a specialized sex toy cleaner. Be thorough, ensuring you scrub for at least 20 seconds with hot water, and rinse completely to remove any soap residue. Avoid harsh chemicals or scented soaps, as these can cause irritation, especially for internal use.

Drying

After washing, dry your toy thoroughly. Storing wet toys can encourage bacteria growth. Air-drying is recommended over using a towel, which could harbor bacteria. If you must use a cloth, ensure it's clean, dry, and won't leave residue.

Storage

Store your clean, dry dildo in a clean, dry place. Keep it away from extreme temperatures and direct sunlight. Important: Store silicone toys separately from toys made of porous jelly-like materials to prevent a chemical reaction that can damage the silicone. The original bag or a dedicated cloth bag is a good option for storage.

Features & Design Elements

Beyond the basic type, dildos come with various features that impact sensation and how they can be used.

Size Considerations

Size is a personal preference and can greatly affect sensation. Dildos come in sizes ranging from small and discreet to large. It's often recommended to start with a smaller size and gradually explore larger ones as you become more comfortable. Consider both the total length and the insertable length, as well as the girth (circumference or diameter).

Firmness Levels and Flexibility

Dildos vary in firmness, from very soft and flexible to very firm and rigid. Softer dildos can be more comfortable, especially for beginners or for internal use, and may mold more to the body. Firmer dildos can offer more direct pressure and structure, which some users prefer for specific types of stimulation or partnered play.

Texture Variations

The surface texture of a dildo can add another layer of sensation. Textures can range from smooth to veined, ridged, bumpy, or otherwise patterned. Smooth dildos offer gliding sensations, while textured ones can provide added friction or targeted stimulation to nerve endings.

Base Designs

The base of a dildo is important for safety and functionality:

• Flared Base: For any toy intended for anal insertion, a flared base is crucial for safety. It prevents the toy from being pulled entirely into the anal canal, which could require medical removal.
• Suction Cup Base: Many dildos feature a suction cup base, allowing them to stick to smooth surfaces like tile, glass, or floors. This enables hands-free use and can open up various positioning possibilities.
• Harness-Compatible Base: Strap-on dildos have a base designed to fit securely through the O-ring of a harness. These bases are often wider or shaped specifically for this purpose.

Special Features

Some dildos offer additional features:

• Dual-Density: These toys have a firmer core surrounded by a softer outer layer, aiming to mimic a realistic feel.
• Temperature Play Capabilities: As discussed with glass and metal dildos, some materials can be safely heated or cooled to add temperature sensations.

Finding Your Ideal Fit

Choosing a dildo is a personal journey! There's no single "best" dildo for everyone. The key is to think about what you're hoping to experience.

Questions to Ask Yourself

Ask yourself questions like these to narrow down your options:

• What is your experience level? Are you completely new to dildos or sex toys, or do you have some experience?
• What kind of sensations do you desire? Are you looking for realistic feel, unique textures, deep pressure, or something else?
• What size are you comfortable with? Consider both length and girth, and remember you can always start smaller and explore larger sizes later.
• Who will be using the toy? Is it just for you, for you and a partner(s), or both?
• How do you plan to use it? Vaginally? Anally? Externally? With a harness?
• Where will you be using the toy? Do you need a toy with a suction base for hands-free play?
• What is your budget? High-quality toys are an investment, but there are good options at various price points.

Matching Categories to Your Needs

Based on your answers, you can match your needs to our categories:

• If you want a familiar look and feel for penetration, explore Realistic Dildos.
• If you're curious about unique textures and shapes for varied sensations, look at Non-phallic Dildos.
• If temperature play and easy cleaning are priorities, check out Glass & Metal Dildos.
• If you want to explore partnered penetration where one partner wears the toy, browse Strap-ons.
• If you need O-rings or other items to enhance your strap-on setup or care for your toys, explore O-Rings & Accessories.

Recommendations by Experience Level

Beginners: Consider starting with a smaller, softer Realistic or Non-phallic dildo, or a simple Glass toy. Focus on exploring external stimulation before attempting internal use if you're new to penetration toys. If interested in anal play, ensure your first anal toy has a prominent flared base.

Intermediate/Experienced Users: You might explore larger sizes, different textures, dual-density options, or specialize in types like Glass & Metal for temperature play, or Strap-ons for partnered experiences.

Creating a Complete Collection

Different types of dildos can complement each other and expand your pleasure possibilities. You might have a smaller, soft toy for warming up, a textured non-phallic shape for specific sensations, a realistic dildo for partnered play, and a glass toy for temperature exploration. Building a collection allows you to have a variety of experiences available depending on your mood and desires.

How to Use Our Dildo Categories

There's no single "right" way to use a dildo – the best way is whatever feels good to you! Here are some general techniques and tips for using our specific categories. Always read the instructions that come with your specific toy. Using lubricant is highly recommended, especially for internal use.

Realistic Dildos

These can be used for solo or partnered vaginal or anal penetration. For solo internal use, find a comfortable position, such as lying on your back with knees bent, lying on your side, or standing with one leg raised. Use plenty of lube. Start with slow, gentle insertion and gradually increase speed and depth as desired. Experiment with different angles. For partnered use, explore positions like the user on top, or spooning, which can allow for shared control or deeper penetration.

Non-phallic Dildos

Due to their varied shapes, exploration is key. Pay attention to the contours, textures, and curves. Use the different parts of the dildo to target specific areas, both externally on the vulva, clitoris, or perineum, and internally. Some shapes might be ideal for targeting a G-spot or prostate. Don't be afraid to experiment with angles and pressure.

Glass & Metal Dildos

For temperature play, safely warm a glass or metal dildo by placing it in warm water for a few minutes (test temperature before use!) or chill it in the freezer (in a clean bag). The weight of metal or solid glass can offer intense pressure sensations; experiment with leaning into the toy or using its weight during insertion or grinding. Always use lube, especially with cold toys.

Strap-ons

Using a strap-on involves a harness. Ensure the harness fits comfortably and securely. Select the correct size O-ring to hold the dildo firmly in place without pinching. Use plenty of lube, especially for penetration. Communicate with your partner throughout the experience about what feels good, speed, depth, and pressure. Experiment with positions that allow for comfortable movement and penetration, such as the giving partner on top, kneeling, or standing.

O-Rings & Accessories

Ensure the O-ring size matches both your harness and the base of your chosen strap-on dildo for a secure and comfortable fit. Accessories like different harness styles can change the feel and fit. Cleaning and storage accessories help ensure your toys are always ready for safe and enjoyable use.

Harness Guide

Using a strap-on effectively and comfortably relies heavily on the harness. The harness secures the dildo to the wearer's body, allowing for hands-free thrusting and movement.

Types of Harnesses

Harnesses come in various styles, typically made from leather, nylon, or silicone:

• Panties/Briefs Style: Resembles underwear with an O-ring built into the front. Offers a secure and often comfortable fit. Can be more discreet under clothing.
• Belt/Strap Style: Consists of adjustable straps that wrap around the waist and legs. Offers high adjustability for different body types and preferred fit.
• Bodice/Suspender Style: Extends up the torso or uses shoulder straps for added support, particularly for heavier dildos.

Measuring for the Right Fit

Harnesses are usually adjustable, but checking sizing guides is important. Measure around your waist/hips where the main belt will sit, and around your thighs where the leg straps will wrap. A well-fitting harness should be snug enough to hold the dildo securely during movement but not so tight that it pinches or restricts circulation.

O-ring Sizing and Compatibility

The O-ring is the ring at the front of the harness that the dildo slides through. O-rings come in various internal diameters (e.g., 1 inch, 1.5 inch, 2 inch). You need an O-ring size that matches or is slightly smaller than the base of your dildo for a snug fit. A ring that's too large won't hold the dildo securely, while one that's too small won't fit the dildo's base.

Comfort Considerations

Look for harnesses with soft, wide straps that distribute pressure. Materials like padded nylon or soft leather can be more comfortable than thin or rigid straps. Ensure adjustability allows for a personalized fit. Using a comfortable, well-fitting harness is key to an enjoyable strap-on experience.

Real User Experiences

Hearing from others can be helpful, especially if you're new to dildos or considering a new type. The journey of finding your best selection is about personal discovery and figuring out what brings you the most pleasure. Don't be discouraged if the first dildo you try isn't the absolute perfect one – think of it as a step in learning more about your preferences!

Exploring dildos often involves some trial and error. What works perfectly for one person might not for another. You might find you prefer a different size or texture than you initially expected. Some users discover unexpected benefits or ways of using toys they hadn't considered before.

FAQ Section

How do dildos work?

Dildos are designed to provide physical stimulation through insertion, rubbing, or pressure. Unlike vibrators which use motors for oscillation, dildos provide sensation through their shape, size, texture, material, and how they are used against the body.

Are dildos safe?

Yes, when used correctly and made from body-safe materials. It's crucial to choose non-porous materials and avoid those with harmful phthalates. Proper cleaning before and after each use and storing them correctly are also essential for safety and hygiene. Always listen to your body and stop if anything feels uncomfortable.

How do I clean my dildo?

Clean your dildo before and after each use. Use a mild soap and water or a dedicated toy cleaner, rinse thoroughly, and let it dry completely before storing. Avoid harsh chemicals or excessive soap. Air-drying is best.

Can dildos be used internally?

Yes, many dildos are designed for internal use in the vagina or anus. However, any toy inserted anally must have a prominent flared base to prevent it from getting stuck. Dildos can also be used externally for rubbing or pressure.

What's the difference between a dildo and a vibrator?

The primary difference is the mechanism of sensation. Vibrators use a motor to create vibrations, while dildos provide sensation through their physical form, texture, weight, and temperature, without mechanical vibration. Some toys combine features, like a vibrating dildo.

Are there dildos specifically for anal use?

While many dildos can be used anally, any dildo intended for anal insertion must have a flared base for safety. Some dildos, like prostate massagers or anal plugs, are specifically shaped and weighted for anal pleasure.

What kind of lubricant should I use?

Water-based lubricants are generally recommended as they are compatible with most toy materials, including silicone. Avoid silicone-based lubricants with silicone toys, as they can damage the material. Oil-based lubricants should also be avoided with silicone toys and condoms.