Slippery When Wet: The Complete Guide to Sexual Lubricants

Welcome to our guide to personal lubricants! Whether you're new to using lube or just looking to learn more, this guide is here to help you explore the wonderful world of added slipperiness. Using lube is a fantastic way to enhance pleasure, reduce friction, and make intimate experiences more comfortable and enjoyable, whether you're solo, with a partner, or using toys. Think of it as a helpful friend for your intimate moments.

Contrary to some old-fashioned ideas, needing or wanting lubricant doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your body or that you're not aroused enough. Many factors can affect natural lubrication, and using lube is a completely normal and positive choice for bodies of all kinds. It's about adding comfort, boosting sensation, and making sure your experiences are as pleasurable as they can be. This guide will help you understand the different types of lubricants and find the perfect one (or ones!) for you from our selection.

Types of Lubricants

Different situations and preferences call for different types of lube. We offer a variety to suit your needs. Understanding the basic categories is key to choosing the right one.

Water-Based Lubricants

Description: Water-based lubes are, as the name suggests, made primarily with water. They often contain ingredients like glycerin (though some sensitive-skin options avoid this) or hydroxyethylcellulose to give them their slippery texture. They come in various consistencies, from thin liquids to thicker gels.

Best Uses: Water-based lubes are incredibly versatile and a great choice for many activities. They are excellent for use with silicone sex toys, as they won't degrade the material like silicone-based lubes can. They are also generally safe to use with latex and polyisoprene condoms. Their easy cleanup makes them popular for everyday use.

Ideal For: Beginners, people with sensitive skin (if glycerin-free options are chosen), users of silicone toys, and anyone looking for an easy-to-clean, versatile option.

Pros:

• Versatile and compatible with most toys and all condom types.
• Easy to clean up with just water.
• Often a good starting point for those new to lube.
• Many options are suitable for sensitive skin.

Cons:

• May dry out more quickly than silicone or oil-based lubes, requiring reapplication.
• Some contain glycerin or parabens, which some users prefer to avoid.
• Not ideal for use in water (like showers or baths) as they wash away easily.

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Silicone Lubricants

Description: Silicone-based lubes are made from body-safe silicone ingredients. They provide a slick, smooth glide that lasts a long time.

Best Uses: Silicone lubes are excellent for long-lasting play, especially for activities that involve potential friction or require minimal reapplication. They perform exceptionally well in water environments like showers or baths, as they are waterproof. They are compatible with latex and polyisoprene condoms.

Ideal For: Users who prioritize longevity and minimal reapplication, those who enjoy water-based activities, and users of glass or metal toys.

Pros:

• Extremely long-lasting and durable.
• Excellent for water play.
• Compatible with latex and polyisoprene condoms.
• Generally hypoallergenic.

Cons:

• Incompatible with silicone sex toys, as they can break down the toy's material.
• Can be more difficult to clean up than water-based lubes, often requiring soap and water.
• Can stain some fabrics.

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Hybrid Lubricants

Description: Hybrid lubricants combine features of both water-based and silicone-based lubes. The exact formulation can vary, but they aim to offer the best aspects of both types.

Best Uses: Hybrid lubes are versatile, providing a longer-lasting glide than many water-based options while being easier to clean than pure silicone lubes. They can be used for a wide range of activities, from solo play to partnered sex.

Ideal For: Users who want a balance of longevity and easy cleanup, or those seeking a different texture than traditional water or silicone lubes.

Pros:

• Offer a longer-lasting glide than many water-based lubes.
• Easier to clean up than pure silicone lubes.
• Often compatible with most toys and condoms (always check the specific product).

Cons:

• Compatibility with silicone toys can vary depending on the specific formulation; a patch test is recommended.
• May not be as long-lasting as pure silicone for some activities.

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Massage & Sensation

Description: This category can include oils, lotions, or specialized lubes designed for massage or to provide specific sensations like warming, cooling, or tingling. Oil-based lubes often fall into this category due to their texture and absorption properties.

Best Uses: Primarily for external massage and enhancing intimacy through touch. Some oil-based products can also be used for lubrication, especially for solo play or partnered sex without condoms. Sensation lubes add an extra dimension to stimulation.

Ideal For: Couples or individuals interested in incorporating massage into their intimate time, those seeking added sensory experiences, or users of glass or metal toys.

Pros:

• Excellent for body massage.
• Can provide unique sensory experiences.
• Often feel rich and moisturizing on the skin.

Cons:

• Oil-based products are incompatible with latex and polyisoprene condoms and toys made from those materials, as they can cause them to break down.
• Can stain fabrics.
• May not be suitable for internal use depending on ingredients and pH.
• Some (like coconut oil) can disrupt vaginal pH and potentially lead to infections.

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Understanding Lubricant Ingredients

What's in your lube matters, especially when using it on sensitive areas of your body. Paying attention to ingredients can help ensure comfort, protect your health, and maintain the longevity of your toys.

Body-Safe Ingredients to Look For

Look for lubricants made with body-safe, non-porous materials. For water-based lubes, ingredients like hydroxyethylcellulose can be a good sign, especially if you are trying to conceive, as it doesn't hurt sperm or decrease their movement and mimics natural vaginal conditions. Natural and organic ingredients like aloe vera, sunflower oil, shea butter, and vitamin E can be moisturizing and gentle on skin.

Ingredients to Avoid and Why

Some ingredients commonly found in older or cheaper lubricants can cause irritation or other issues, particularly for sensitive individuals or those prone to infections.

• Parabens & Preservatives: These are man-made chemicals used to prevent decay. They might be listed as methylparaben, ethylparaben, butylparaben, and propylparaben. Some research suggests they could potentially interfere with hormone signaling and may negatively impact fertility or cause birth defects.
• Glycerin: While it acts as a humectant to make lubes last longer, some people are very allergic to glycerin, and it can increase the chances of contracting a yeast infection. Avoiding glycerin was important for some users struggling with vaginal issues.
• Synthetic Fragrances/Flavors: These can cause irritation, especially in sensitive areas.
• Petroleum Jelly: Avoid this harsh chemical.
• Coconut Oil (for vaginal use, especially with condoms): While some sources mention raw organic coconut oil positively for self-play or sex without condoms and its properties to help fight against yeast, other sources strongly caution against it for vaginal use. It can disturb vaginal pH, potentially leading to yeast infections and bacterial vaginosis. Crucially, coconut oil damages latex and polyisoprene condoms. It can also cause discomfort and irritation during anal sex and potentially viral infections.

pH Considerations

The pH balance of your lubricant matters, especially for vaginal health. The natural pH of the vagina is acidic, typically between 3.8 and 4.5. The World Health Organization (WHO) recommends lubricants with pH levels 7 and below for vaginal use to protect the vagina from damage and maintain a healthy pH, which helps protect against infection. A high vaginal pH (more alkaline) can increase the risk of bacterial vaginosis. Anal tissue has a different pH.

Organic and Natural Options

Many users prefer lubricants made with natural and organic ingredients to minimize exposure to synthetic chemicals. Products with aloe vera, plant extracts, and organic components are increasingly popular. However, "natural" isn't a regulated term, so checking the full ingredient list is always recommended.

Choosing the Right Lubricant for Your Needs

Selecting the best lube depends on how you plan to use it, your body's sensitivities, and what feels best to you.

Activity-Specific Recommendations

• Vaginal Sex: Water-based or hybrid lubes are often preferred due to their versatility and compatibility with condoms. Some oil-based lubes can be used if no condoms are involved.
• Anal Sex: Properly formulated anal lubricants often have a thicker, longer-lasting texture. Silicone or thicker oil-based lubes are frequently recommended for anal play due to their longevity and cushioning. Using more lube than you think you need is always recommended for anal sex. It is never safe to have anal sex without lubricant.
• Masturbation: Any type of lube can be used for self-pleasure. Water-based is easy to clean, silicone lasts a long time, and oils can feel very nourishing.
• Oral Sex: Water-based lubes are generally safe for oral sex, especially flavored varieties. Some oil-based lubes are noted as edible.
• Water Activities (Shower, Bath): Silicone lubes are waterproof and recommended for use in water.

Toy Compatibility Guide

The material of your sex toys is crucial when choosing a lubricant:

• Silicone Toys: Only use water-based or oil-based lubricants. Silicone-based lubricants will degrade silicone toys. Hybrid lubes may or may not be compatible; check the product details and perform a patch test.
• Glass & Metal Toys: Water-based, silicone, or oil-based lubes are generally compatible.
• Porous Materials (like "Jelly" or TPE/TPR): Water-based lubes are best. Avoid silicone or oil-based lubes which can further break down the porous material and are difficult to clean out.
• Latex or Rubber Toys: Avoid oil-based lubes as they can degrade these materials. Water-based and silicone lubes are generally safe.

Sensitive Skin Considerations

If you have sensitive skin, choosing a lube carefully is important to avoid irritation or allergic reactions. Look for products specifically marketed as hypoallergenic or for sensitive skin. Avoid known irritants like parabens, glycerin (if you react to it), and synthetic fragrances or flavors. Patch testing a small amount on your inner elbow before use is always a good idea.

Condom and Barrier Method Compatibility

Using lube with condoms is important for comfort and preventing breakage. However, not all lubes are condom-safe:

• Latex or Polyisoprene Condoms: Only use water-based or silicone-based lubricants. Avoid oil-based lubricants (including massage oils, coconut oil, petroleum jelly, etc.) as they can degrade the material and make the condom ineffective.
• Polyurethane Condoms: Generally compatible with all types of lubricants (water, silicone, oil).

Flavor and Sensation Options

Some lubes come with added flavors or ingredients that create warming, cooling, or tingling sensations. If you have sensitive skin, be cautious with these, as added ingredients can sometimes cause irritation. Flavored lubes are generally intended for oral use.

Discovering The Right Lube

Choosing a lubricant is a personal choice, and the "best" lube is the one that works best for you.

Questions to Guide Your Choice

1. What is your primary goal? (e.g., reduce friction, enhance sensation, long-lasting glide, easy cleanup, compatible with a specific toy/condom).
2. Who will you be using it with, or are you using it solo? (e.g., solo play, partnered sex, specific sex acts like anal).
3. Will you be using barrier methods like condoms? If so, what material are they?
4. What type of sex toys will you be using? What material are they made from?
5. Do you have sensitive skin or a history of reactions or infections (like yeast infections)?
6. Where will you be using the lube? (e.g., in bed, in the shower).
7. What texture or feel do you prefer? (e.g., lightweight, thick, creamy, slick).
8. Are you trying to conceive? (Some ingredients can impact sperm motility).

Matching Categories to Your Needs

• Need a versatile, easy-to-clean option that's safe for silicone toys and condoms? Explore Water-Based Lubricants.
• Need something super long-lasting, great for water play, and safe with latex/polyisoprene condoms? Explore Silicone Lubricants.
• Want a balance of longevity and easy cleanup? Consider Hybrid Lubricants.
• Looking for something for massage or to add extra sensations? Explore Massage & Sensation Products (checking compatibility based on ingredients and planned use).

Recommendations by Experience Level

Beginners: Water-based lubricants are often a great starting point due to their versatility and easy cleanup.

Intermediate/Experienced Users: You might explore silicone or hybrid options for longer-lasting glide, or massage/sensation products to enhance different types of play. Experimenting with different textures and consistencies can also be rewarding.

Creating a Complete Collection

Different lubes are great for different moods and activities. Many people find having a few types on hand expands their options. You might keep a water-based lube for quick sessions or toy use, a silicone lube for long nights or shower fun, and a massage oil for sensual touch. Building a collection allows you to tailor your lubrication to the specific experience you desire.

Specific Uses for Our Lubricant Categories

• Silicone Lubricants: Perfect for long-lasting play, including extended partnered sessions or anal sex where reapplication isn't convenient. Their waterproof nature makes them the go-to choice for water activities like intimacy in the shower or bath.
• Water-Based Lubricants: Known for their versatility. Great for everyday use, safe with all toy materials, and easy to clean up.
• Hybrid Lubricants: Offer the best of both worlds, providing a more durable glide than many water-based lubes while being easier to wash off than silicone. A good middle-ground option.
• Massage & Sensation Products: Designed to go beyond simple lubrication to enhance intimacy through sensual touch, massage, or added sensory elements.

Complementary Products

Enhancing your intimate experiences involves more than just lube. Consider these complementary products:

• Shaving Cream & Accessories: For comfortable preparation. Browse our selection.
• Bodycare & Hygiene: Products for cleaning up before or after intimacy. Browse our selection.
• Toy Cleaners: Essential for keeping your sex toys hygienic and in good condition, especially after using lubricant. Browse our selection.

Application & Usage Tips

Using lube effectively is simple, but a few tips can make a big difference.

• How Much to Use: It's generally better to use more than you think you need. Start with a dollop about the size of a coin, warm it between your hands, and apply it liberally to the areas where you want to reduce friction. You can always add more if needed.
• Where to Apply: You can apply lube directly to the body (penis, vulva, vagina, anus), on sex toys, or on barrier methods like condoms or dental dams. For partnered sex, applying it to both partners can be helpful.
• Reapplication: Water-based lubes may require reapplication during longer sessions. Keep the bottle or a travel-size container handy. Silicone and some oil-based lubes tend to last longer. Adding a little water can sometimes reactivate certain water-based lubes if they start to dry.
• Combining Lube Types: Generally, it's best to stick to one type of lube at a time, especially when using toys or condoms, to avoid compatibility issues.
• Storage and Shelf Life: Store lubricants in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight. Most lubricants have a shelf life of between 1 and 3 years; check the packaging for specific expiration dates. Dispose of any lube that changes color, consistency, or smell.

Real User Experiences

Hearing from others can provide valuable insights into how different lubes perform and how they can enhance intimate life.

• Some users found lubes recommended by gynecologists and pelvic floor physical therapists helped address dryness or discomfort during intercourse.
• Many users expressed a strong preference for avoiding glycerin and parabens due to past irritation or infections.
• Silicone lubes were praised for staying slippery longer than water-based options, making sex more comfortable, especially for those experiencing dryness or tightness.
• Oil-based lubes received positive feedback for anal sex, with users noting their thickness, hydration, and lasting power.
• Natural options with aloe vera bases were highlighted by those with sensitive skin as causing fewer reactions.

These shared experiences highlight the highly personal nature of choosing a lubricant and the importance of finding what feels best for your body and needs.

FAQ Section

What is personal lubricant used for?

Personal lubricant, or lube, is a product used to reduce friction and increase comfort and pleasure during sexual activity, including penetrative sex, anal sex, oral sex, and masturbation. It can also help if you experience natural dryness or want to enhance sensations.

Does using lube mean I'm not aroused enough?

Absolutely not. Needing or wanting to use lubricant is normal and doesn't reflect on your level of arousal or desire. Many factors can influence natural lubrication, and lube is simply a tool to enhance comfort and pleasure for anyone, regardless of their body's natural response.

What's the difference between water-based, silicone, and hybrid lube?

These are the three main types of lube based on their primary ingredients.

• Water-based is made with water, easy to clean, and compatible with all condom and most toy types, but may dry out faster.
• Silicone is made with silicone ingredients, is very long-lasting and waterproof, compatible with latex/polyisoprene condoms, but incompatible with silicone toys.
• Hybrid combines aspects of both water and silicone bases, aiming for a balance of longevity and easy cleanup.

Are lubricants safe?

Yes, when made with body-safe ingredients and used correctly. It's important to choose products free from harmful chemicals like phthalates and be mindful of ingredients like parabens and glycerin if you have sensitivities. Using lubes with appropriate pH for vaginal use is also important for health.

Can I use lube with condoms?

Yes, and it's recommended! However, you must use the correct type of lube depending on the condom material. Only use water-based or silicone-based lubes with latex or polyisoprene condoms. Avoid oil-based lubes, as they can damage these condoms. Polyurethane condoms are compatible with all lube types.

Can I use lube with sex toys?

Yes, lube is great with sex toys! Be sure to match the lube type to the toy material. Silicone lube should not be used with silicone toys. Oil-based lubes should not be used with latex or rubber toys. Water-based lubes are generally compatible with most toy materials.

What ingredients should I avoid if I have sensitive skin?

If you have sensitive skin, consider avoiding parabens, glycerin (if you react to it), synthetic fragrances, and flavors. Look for hypoallergenic options and always perform a patch test first.

Can lube cause yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis?

Some ingredients, like glycerin or coconut oil, might contribute to yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis in some individuals, potentially by feeding bacteria or disrupting vaginal pH. Using lubes with a vaginal-friendly pH (7 or below) is important for maintaining a healthy vaginal environment and preventing infection.

Does lube expire?

Yes, lubricants have a shelf life, typically between 1 and 3 years. Check the packaging for the expiration date. Dispose of expired lube or any lube that looks, smells, or feels unusual.

How should I clean up after using lube?

Water-based and most hybrid lubes are easy to clean up with just water or a gentle wipe. Silicone and oil-based lubes may require soap and water for thorough removal.

How should I store my lube?

Store your lubricant in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight. Keep the cap or lid closed tightly.