Gift-Giving: How to Choose a Sex Toy for Your Partner
How to Choose a Sex Toy for Your Partner
Hey folks, let’s be real: there’s nothing sexier than the anticipation and build-up of exciting sexy time to come. Unwrapping a new addition to your pleasure tool kit can absolutely prime the pump for arousing new experiences. But if you’re shopping for a partner, how do you make sure you pick the thing with the zing?
That brings me to our favorite tips for making your own rules and choosing a shame-free pleasure gift that you'll both love!
1. The Homework: Pay Attention to Their In-Bed Faves
All right, so this is where your memory becomes your superpower. What sends your babe wild in the bedroom (or wherever you play)? Does your partner live for intense clitoral stimulation? Do they go gaga for penetration? Are they obsessed with butt stuff?
These desires are your cheat sheet! You'll find a whole world of tools designed to cater to every single one of those preferences, normalizing diverse experiences and identities. Start with what you know they already enjoy, and you’re already winning the fucking Olympics.
2. When in Doubt, Start with Familiar Territory
If you haven’t explicitly discussed a new kind of toy before, a general rule of thumb is to start with something you’re both already familiar with. For example, if you’ve only ever had vaginal sex together, a basic, high-quality vibrator can be a fantastic way to begin that exploration.
And remember, you can always work your way up! Start with smaller, less intense toys and go from there. This is all about normalizing and being direct about sexual language and concepts, not making you or your partner uncomfortable.
3. Consent-First When Trying Something New
That being said, if you know your partner wants to try something new (like maybe some cock rings or a new kind of harness), a fun new tool can be the perfect way to dip your toes in the water! When you’re buying solo, make sure trying a new kind of experience is something you’ve already talked about, so your partner is comfortable and enthusiastic about the purchase.
4. Don't Forget the Lube!
Seriously, y’all, never forget the lube. Whether it’s for a vibe, a dildo, or for some hot, hands-on fun, you'll want to make sure you have a high-quality, toy-friendly lube on hand. Especially for any penetrative toys, the right lube makes the difference between "meh" and mind-blowing. Our all-time favorite lube is Überlube. In our expert opinion, Überlube is the best silicone lubricant on the market. If you want or need to use a water-based lube, check out our high-quality collection.
No judgment, just love! All consensual sex is good sex, and that includes giving and receiving a gorgeous new pleasure tool.
Ready to level up your gift-giving game? We created this Naughty Little Gift Guide to help you choose the toy for the ultimate happy ending for you and your babe.