Pucker Up: Your Guide to Becoming a World-Class Kisser

Let’s talk about one of life’s simplest, most delicious pleasures: a really, really good kiss.

Whether it’s a first-date spark or a long-term flame, kissing is a huge part of your pleasure toolkit. But let’s be real—we’ve all had those awkward "is this happening?" moments.

At Pure Pleasure, we believe all consensual sex is good sex, and that includes the lead-up! So, grab a glass of wine, and let’s dive into how to level up your making-out game. No judgment, just love.

The Pre-Game: Setting the Stage

Before you even lean in, a little prep goes a long way. Think of it as showing your partner (and yourself!) some respect.

• Freshen Up: Confidence is sexy! Brush those teeth, grab a mint, or floss so you’re feeling fresh.
• Set the Mood: You don’t need rose petals, but waiting for a moment where you both feel comfortable makes a world of difference.
• Build the Anticipation: Use your hands, babe! Make eye contact, gently touch their neck, or trace their lips. It’s all about that slow-burn energy.

The 90/10 Rule (The Consent King)

Remember that scene in Hitch? The 90/10 rule is actually a total pro-tip for gauging enthusiastic consent. Lean in 90% of the way, pause, and let them close that final 10%. It creates amazing anticipation and ensures they’re just as excited as you are.

During the Magic: It’s a Conversation, Not a Solo

Kissing is an interactive "tool kit" for intimacy—it’s not a solo performance!

• Start Slow: Begin with soft, gentle kisses to find your rhythm together. No need to go "turbo mode" in the first five seconds.
• Use Your Hands: Don't just let them hang there! Cup their cheek, run your fingers through their hair, or rest them on their shoulders.
• Vary the Pressure: Keep it interesting. Soften your lips, then firm them up a bit. It’s like a dance for your face.
• Tongue Talk: Use it wisely! Less is usually more. Gently explore rather than rushing to "shove it in".
• Eyes Closed, Heart Open: Closing your eyes helps you focus on the sensation and adds that extra layer of intimacy.
• Explore Beyond the Lips: The neck, earlobes, and collarbones are all fair game for some variety. Just remember: you can change your mind or direction anytime!
• Don't Forget to Breathe: Seriously, come up for air! It gives you a second to smile and check in with each other.

Pro-Tip: End on a High Note

When you’re ready to take a break, pull back slowly, look them in the eyes, and give them a little smile. It leaves them wanting five million times more.

Remember, your pleasure is your rules. There’s no "right" way to do it as long as everyone is having a blast and feeling respected. Now go out there and practice!

Listen to Shameless Sex Podcast Episode #230 for more: