That brings me to one of our absolute favorite anatomical secrets: the "Outer Third" technique. Sex educators are heavily championing shallow-depth penetration techniques right now, and for good reason! Did you know that the highest density of nerve endings in both the vaginal canal and the anal canal is concentrated right near the entrance?

By focusing your rhythmic movement strictly on that outer third, you maximize pleasure big time while completely avoiding deep cervical or anal bruising, painful bumping, or annoying pelvic cramping. It's a total win-win.

Tools and Tricks for Your Pleasure Toolkit

Sometimes keeping it shallow takes a little bit of intentional setup. Here are some of our favorite ways to control depth without losing the momentum:

• Hands-on control: Wrap a hand right around the base of a penis, a strap-on, or a dildo. It acts as a natural physical stopper, giving you instant, intuitive control over exactly how deep you go.
• The Ohnut: If you can snag one (they are super popular and frequently sell out!), these stretchy, squishy rings stack at the base of a penetration tool to comfortably buffer depth and cushion sensitive bodies.
• Positioning devices: Grab a Liberator Wedge or similar positioning cushion. Tilting the pelvis opens up brand-new angles that make shallow, rhythmic, friction-focused movements way easier to maintain.

Slow Down, Lube Up, and Read the Room

Of course, no pleasure toolkit is complete without the holy trinity of great sex: patience, speed control, and plenty of lube. Always check in with your partner and read their physical signs—breathing, muscle tension, facial expressions—to see how much speed and intensity are actually working for them in the moment. When you're focusing on the sensitive outer third, keeping things slick ensures everything stays smooth, friction-free, and purely pleasurable. Grab a generous pump of your favorite lube and don't be shy about reapplying.